A while back I was asked publicly on Instagram, by a woman that I had not previously engaged with, why I would choose to call myself a witch.
This is not the first time I have been queried on this point (or similar variants of it) – nor, I’m sure, will it be the last.
The wording of this question always catches my eye. The person is not directly asking me why I am a witch, but rather why I would willingly associate with a word that, more often than not in their eyes, holds strongly negative or even “evil” connotations.
Ask ten, three hundred, or five thousand witches this same question and chances are you will receive nearly as many different replies as to why they have decided to call themselves witches.
I cannot, and would not, speak for anyone else on this matter. I can only reply as to why I proudly choose to call myself a witch.
Why I call myself a witch
I call myself a witch because as a very young child, before I even fully understood in a spiritual or real-world context what that word and the practice of witchcraft entailed, a voice deep in the furthest reaches of my being told me that I was a witch.
Witchcraft came as naturally to me as drawing air, but it was a path that I made darn sure I was willing to take on the full complexities of and in doing so, to face the potential backlash, persecution, intolerance, ostracization, and even hatred that the label of witch and the act of witchcraft can carry with them.
I call myself a witch because I entered this world with a soul so old it feels as though it was already well-aged when the Big Bang occurred.
In the word witch I seek and see, find and cherish the past, the present, and the future.
I call myself a witch because I am willing, able and honoured to stand up for those impacted by the staggering hardship and trauma, crime and oppression that has been perpetuated over the course of human history – the Burning Times wholly included.
I call myself a witch because it elevates my autonomy. It gives me strength and power, the ability to stand as tall and proud as the lightest oak and to remain true to my innermost beliefs at all times.
I call myself a witch because I have devoted myself and my life, my spirit and soul, heart, body and mind to the study of witchcraft, magick, and Paganism.
I did not don the word “witch” on a whim, to follow a trend or because (as much as I do madly adore it) I’m a huge fan of Halloween.
I read hundreds of books on scores of religions and spiritual belief systems from around the world before I even dared to considered describing myself a witch to others. I have read far more since and each one has helped in its own way to add credence to my choice to become a witch.
I call myself a witch because I believe that there is a spirit or soul in everything – animals, rocks, plants, locations, etc – the world over.
This concept, animism, is a core tenant of my existence, how I engage with others, and why I would only knowingly hurt another living being as a last resort means of necessitated self-defence.
It is why I’ve heard the trees sing to each other, felt Gaia’s pulse beat in tandem with mine as I lay on the verdant grass of a warm June evening, drawn the moon and sun both down and experienced their life forces mingle with my own.
I call myself a witch because I am an empath. The feelings, concerns, stresses, joys, and (sometimes) even thoughts of others are something that I feel and understand as deeply. Perhaps, at times, even more so than my own.
I call myself a witch because I am a perpetual knowledge seeker. For the entirety of my life, I have been madly in love with learning. With following the path of understanding, with the fact that learning one thing can open up a pandora’s box of questions, all of which hold the potential to learn more and in doing so, to potentially grow further as a human being.
I am an impassioned believer in science and reason, but I also know, in my heart of hearts, that there is infinitely more at work in the universe that we do not (yet) know, fully understand, or even conceptualize than what humans presently place under these ever-expanding and shifting headers.
I call myself a witch because I honour nature and do everything that I realistically can to help, heal, nurture and support the planet and all living things that inhabit our world.
I call myself a witch because living in harmony with the Wheel of the Year brings me profound happiness, closeness to the universe, and strengthens my bonds to the ancestors.
As a child, I often questioned why there were not more holidays, especially ones that marked the start of each season. In discovering, as I grew older and began studying Paganism, that humankind had been honouring these points in the year since time immemorial and that some people still continue to do so, I felt a piece of my innermost self click immediately into place.
I call myself a witch because of the profound degree of comfort and acceptance coupled with the immense lack of fear that I have regarding death. I have traversed the veil, I work with my ancestors on a regular basis, I am more at home in a quiet cemetery than almost any public place that the living hang out in.
Death is a state I understand and appreciate. It ends much, but starts much as well. In death, our essential energy is transferred to another form. It does not vanish. Nothing is truly lost in the universe. It just materializes differently with each new iteration.
I call myself a witch because I know that I have the ability to manifest and help to create the outcomes that I desire in my life. I can face any situation and find ways to ensure that, if so desired, it is bolstered, bettered, assisted, protected, or otherwise aided or empowered by the actions that I take and changes set into motion via the witchcraft that I create.
I call myself a witch because I do not depend on others to save me or support me. I am strong and far from helpless. I am a woman, a human, who knows her worth and has learned, through no shortage of challenges and pain, to never let anyone diminish my validity.
I call myself a witch because doing so is right for me and my existence. In the process, I give space and respect to all those who opt to take on this word themselves, too – just as I do those who are not witches.
I have no agenda, no dogma, no disdain for or fear of others whose spiritual path differs from my own. I do not believe that there is “one true path” or religion that has a monopoly over all other spiritual journeys.
I call myself a witch because I can sense and feel things that go deeper than logic can explain. I converse and actively work with spirit allies, my ancestors, deities, the fae (who first presented themselves to me when I was a young child of just two or three), and creatures both of this world and outside of it.
These beings, energies and essences are not foreign or (usually!) frightening to me. They are as much a part of my world as the living humans and animals that I engage with every day.
I call myself a witch because I am proud to not fit into conventional moulds, but instead to march to the beat of my own drum. I have no desire to conform or go with the flock. I am the wolf howling at the moon in the hills overlooking the sheep farm below. I am free as a flowing river, ancient as the earth it traverses, and able to bend and flow as needed just as nimbly as the Nile.
I call myself a witch because incorporating and weaving magick, connection to the ancestors and nature into countless areas of my existence comes as easily and intrinsically as breathing in and out.
I call myself a witch because in my darkest hours, when I literally had nothing to my name, when I was abused or bullied or hurt, when chronic illness became (and remained) a huge part of my daily existence, when my depression took me to places so dark blackholes looked like the face of the sun by comparison, I reached deep down inside myself and using the strength of every last speck of stardust that aligned to create me, I dug in my heels, refused to give up, and never once lowered myself to the level of those who perpetrated these cruel acts against me.
I call myself a witch because, personally, it would be unfathomable for me to ever lord my beliefs over others, to see those who thought or believed differently as sinners simply because of those differences, or to feel that I had a mission to save their souls. We each save, if we so choose, our own souls, in the ways and manners that work best for our unique life paths.
I call myself a witch because I ascribe to no religion. I am a wild spirit, a free thinker, an impassioned believer in a great many things, but I am not – and have never been at any point in my life – religious.
I call myself a witch because my craft is so not driven by aesthetics or vanity. It is not a power trip or way for me to feel superior. It is honest and raw, refined and real. A continual learning process and source of joy, hope, introspection, growth, love, peace and pleasure.
I call myself a witch because I am as certain as anyone could ever be that I have lived past lives. The memories I possess from some of them are as vivid and real as many from this lifetime. I think/believe that a good many – if not all – humans live multiple lives across the universe.
I call myself a witch, because I embrace the duality and interconnectedness of light and dark, that each one exists because of the other and that these two polarities are to be found in every person, every bit as much as they are in the realm of nature and the cosmos.
I call myself a witch because I am the master and keeper of my own mind, body and spirit. This is not up for debate. Autonomy and independence are indescribably important to me and I will fight for them, if need be, with every ounce of energy I possess.
I call myself a witch because I was born a healer, a comforter, a nurturer. I do not want anyone, any animal, any being, or our planet to suffer or feel pain – and when they do, I feel drawn to help and comfort, support and bolster them to the best of my witchy abilities.
I call myself a witch because my intuition guides me to do so. I have an indescribably close bond + profound reverence for my intuition, which you can bet your bottom dollar, I follow and heed.
I call myself a witch because I am 100% responsible for my actions, my choices in life, my inner happiness, my sense of self-worth, my ability to be do the right thing in every possible situation, and to own my mistakes when they occur.
I call myself a witch because I am willing to stand behind this title and what it means both broadly, and in the realm of my own life, in the 21st century. I see and experience incredible beauty, meaning, conviction, strength, hope, history, sovereignty, independence, reliance, creativity, humility and power alike in the world witch.
I call myself a witch because there is nothing else I want to be called more. Nothing that feels truer, more right, more natural, or more aligned with every molecule in my being, each breath I draw.
I call myself a witch because I am a witch
The reasons above are by no means the only ones that explain why I call myself a witch. Others exist at present and I’m certain more will blossom into being the longer that I’m a witch. And this, unto itself, is yet another reason why I call myself a witch.
As you may have surmised, the very reasons why I call myself a witch are one in the same with why I am a witch.
Most anybody can be a witch, if they truly want to be one. This word and its domain are not beyond the grasp of those who are willing to embrace, live, and honour it.
I do not feel that being a witch makes me inherently special and I certainly am not a witch to garner attention, flaunt my witchiness around, or tell anyone else how to explicitly be a witch themselves.
Questioning why you are a witch is important
Granted most of us probably don’t want to be asked why we are a witch or why we call ourselves a witch around the clock, but this question doesn’t have to inherently get your guard up unless there is just cause for such.
Some people will ask with an agenda – possibly to try to proselytize, mock, shame, belittle or otherwise insult you – others will be genuinely curious (perhaps they themselves are having witchy stirrings and want to learn more).
In most settings, you do not need to respond in detail and can simply say that you would prefer not to answer that question. The call is yours. As always, I urge you to use your intuition and best judgement.
Beyond being asked why we call ourselves witches by other people, I feel that it is very important that we examine this question on a personal level, exploring and defining why we choose to apply the label of “witch” to ourselves.
Your answers are apt to be highly personalized. They may share points in common with my own and those of others, or they might be substantially different.
The fact that we are able to set forth our own personal definition of what being a witch means and why we call ourselves witches is, unto itself, another reason why I am a witch.
The beautiful, liberating autonomy and freedom to follow a spiritual path that makes sense to, and works well for, us on our own terms is a fantastic and hugely empowering thing.
You might think that this post was penned because the aforementioned woman’s question upset, hurt or bothered me. It did none of those things.
What it did do, was give me the lovely opportunity to stop and once again reflect on what being a witch means to me, why I place this title upon myself, and how profoundly grateful I am to be a witch.
And for that – much like her question itself – I sincerely thank her. 🖤
In closing, I would like to leave you with these supportive reminders, from one witch to another.
Do not be afraid to call yourself a witch. Privately, publicly or both, the choice is yours. However, if you do use this word, stand behind it with pride and passion.
Do not let anyone – EVER! – tell you that you’re not a witch if, in fact, you are one.
Don’t feel you have to justify being a witch to anyone other than yourself.
Do embrace your unique, wonderful witchiness.
Do continue to grow, evolve and strengthen your knowledge + abilities as a witch
Do witch on your own terms.
Do know and understand why you are a witch and what being one means to, and for, you. 🧹🖤🕯️
What a lovely and heartfelt post, Autumn. You’ve really put your heart and soul into penning these words.
While You and I walk different paths in life, there are so many similarities we share- especially our love of Nature and the amazing Autumn Season.
I always enjoy reading and learning about your Life path. And this post was one of my favorites!
Thank you from the bottom of my heart, dearest Debi. Your kindness and friendship mean an immeasurable amount to me, as does the fact that even though our paths differ a fair bit in some areas, we respect and understand this about one another and do not let it hinder the beautiful connection that we are blessed to share.
You know, I honestly believe this post is my personal favourite to date here on Witchcrafted Life.
It is also one of my favourite things I have ever written point-blank, and I know that I will reread these very words periodically throughout my life – both when the chips are down and when I am joyful alike – to further strengthen the connection with my witchy path all the more.
Immense thanks & equally big hugs from my ❤️ to yours,
I always read, rarely comment, but I know that you understand and know that I am close to you in spirit for so many years now. I absolutely adore this post, tho I knew in my heart and soul most of it, it was wonderful to read.
As you know , I made the decision to voice for myself as well as others that I was embracing my true self a few years back now, tho since then I have struggled. I totally recognize myself in your words here, and feel in my heart that I am indeed a witch, and others saw that in me long ago…yet, I can’t seem to connect to crystals, tho i love to wear them and am drawn to do so. I tried spells and rituals under the moon and tho I love the moon, feel connected I can’t seem to embrace the celebrations each month. I do not worship a diety , tho definitely believe in some higher power… definitely lean into those that live within the elements. Believe in Fae, but have not been blessed that I am aware of. Spells, I have dabbled but haven’t pushed forward for fear of creating a kick back by not doing them correctly…unless it’s intention spells while cooking etc . I do connect with all things and creatures of this earth, feel the energies. From a breeze that whips around me to birds that get closer than normal and the trees that seem to speak to me. But I often wonder if that’s more Pagan than witchy. Does not doing all the “classic” activities make it not so? Even my alter is not all together, but is sprinkled about. To say low energy witch is a lable I adopt, could by most be an understatement. YET when I finally said “I am a witch” as I told you before others KNEW and were waiting and it felt natural, it felt right. Perhaps from a previous life? One that influences and seeps into this one?? In your post I felt my heart flutter and felt a recognition. .. yet I also felt sorrow as I feel I am playing make believe and am not good at it… I have not studied in months and tho still practicing rituals related to hearth, home and garden as well as self care, these are all things I have done since childhood. If I was asked the same question as yourself I am not sure I could so eloquently and self assuredly state my case and yet I can’t seem to not call myself a witch, as it feels a part of me that is and has been in my very core of being for my whole life.
In many ways I can relate. I have always had magical and witchy aspects but can not fully fit into the witch description either. I am used to not fitting in anywhere though and in that I do fit…if that makes any sense. Lol. But honestly? You are worthy simply because you EXIST. Your worth is not contigent on anything else. You sound like you are empathic and nature based and that you love hearth and home. That is a beautiful way simply to BE. Sometimes descriptors can become labels if they trap us or used as an excuse for certain behaviours instead of for understanding. If something does not feel fully YOU, it is ok to only take aspects. That said, labels and descriptions can become wonderful jumping off points in our communications and understandings with others. I think anything in life can be used for good or ill. Good things can be used in nefarious ways and bad things can be redeemed ( mostly obviously common sense exceptions apply)
People for years, were waiting for me to say witch too. And part of it fit, part of it did not. I am witchy even if I would not fully call myself a witch. (see my comment below) But you need to be what YOU feel in your spirit matches…and if nothing does just BE. This BEING is a guesthouse in life- its so nuanced and life giving but so hard and full of trials. It sounds like you succeed in all the areas that matter. We have searching times in life. We have ebb and flow- sometimes we believe in things that seem to be polar opposites. Yet it does not mean we are not authentic. There are so many phases that demand different approaches. There is also something inside of us that demands a sense of stability too though. It’s always BOTH/ AND in life.
I am the same in that nature speaks to me so so deeply. But spells do not. I have giftings with intuitive belief, and while I connect to the beauty in crystals they do nothing for me except remind me of attributes which is a good reminder for me. There are so many ways to live a good life! Autumn beautifully put her life and I admire it. You will have a different flavour and it will be just as admirable in a completely different way! If it helps I use the term witchy or magical or nature based at times to describe me depending on the circles around me – honestly, its ok to change your descriptions to speak to the audience as long as you are not lying to yourself or others. There are some people in my circle that I can not use the term witchy with at all until we have built an understanding foundation- so then I use the term in love with nature. There are some people I can not use the term believer in God or Jesus either, so with them, until we have a deeper level of understanding, I just say a believe in ALL THAT IS. SOme things are just too mysterious and ineffable! That’s ok too. We need descriptions and confident stances but we also need mystery and open ended questions too. Sounds like you are in a questioning liminal space and while tricky, those are sooooo important to the journey!!!
All the best!
Sweet Ruby, what a beautiful surprise to receive your comment here, my very dear friend.
Thank you tremendously for each and every word that you shared. I greatly appreciate them, just as I do the opportunity to learn more about your own unique and wonderful path.
I cannot overstate the fact that everything you said is beyond 100% okay. All those who feel pulled to embrace the title of “witch” are free to do so on their own terms.
One does not (especially outside of certain branches of Wicca) have to, or need to, engage in certain activities, observe the sabbats, be BFFs with crystals, spend each esbat bathed in moonlight, or a million other things that are broadly associated with 20th and 21st-century contemporary witchery.
There is no witchy test one has to pass, no (I personally believe) higher power that judges you on how you choose to witch, nor any need to feel like one must keep up with the Pagan Jonses.
I believe that a great deal of the essence of your own witchy path, Ruby, lies in the closing lines of your comment.
Because these feelings and connections have been with you throughout your whole life – coupled with the fact that the word witch feels inherently right to as a self-descriptive term – you are a witch and no one can take that away from you.
It is as much a part of who you are as the colour of your eyes, the sound of your voice, or the soul that resides deep inside of your core.
Always your friend in witchery,
PS: Based on much of what you said here, I cannot help but wonder if perhaps you might feel/experience a strong alignment with Druidism (one can, I should mention, be both a witch and a Druid). If it is not an area that you have explored much (or at all) previously, I really think it might be worth looking into.
(On a side note to that point, interestingly, while he is the staunchest of atheists, I actually strongly feel that Tony embodies + aligns with a good deal of elements connected to Druidism. And that, were he more of the spiritual type, he could easily have found that Druidism was a natural fit for him.)
What a beautifully crafted post, Autumn. Although we do not share the same path in life, there are certainly similarities, and more than just a few things I can relate to. Thank you for sharing the origins of your path! xxx
It is my deepest of pleasures, dear Ann. Thank you abundantly in turn for your wonderfully kind words and for always being such a supportive, awesome individual.
To say it means the world to me would be an understatement and I am truly grateful for the beautiful connection that we have shared online over the past several years. May it continue to deepen all the more with each passing day.
A bevy of the cheeriest hugs,
Your post moved me and I soaked up each word. Our souls are embedded so deep within our spirits that only the individual can find their own soul and know what it contains at its root. What our souls contain is so profoundly personal that no other has the right to tell us what we should believe about ourselves and our world. Regardless of what we each call ourselves, I’m blessed to call you friend.
Your words are wise, tremendously true, and so eloquently beautiful, dear Kate.
Thank you with abundant gratitude for sharing these powerful statements. I second them immensely and, likewise, feel sincerely blessed to call you a friend as well.
I think we both felt that spark of kindred spirit-ness from our initial encounters onward and I have no doubt that it will only grow stronger the longer that we have the joy of knowing one another.
From my heart to yours, the very warmest of hugs,
I LOVE this. I agree for myself in so many points.You are definitely an empath too and that is why I am also drawn to you. I love celebrating the wheel of the year and feel it enhances life so much. We were meant to take time to celebrate! I love seasonal living.
I fully agree that no path should have the monopoly over others souls nor dogma. Dogma is religious and not spiritual. But any spiritual path that celebrates love- I celebrate that diversity! Never though as an excuse to dominate, discriminate or judge others! I have been called a witch so many times and often I wondered why. Even when I was fully suffused in the christian communities I was teased about it or avoided…To the point I called myself accidentally magical. Imagine my surprise when I picked up a book by Deborah Blake years ago ( Goddess is in the details) and I found most of my natural life and had no idea it was a set pathway at all! I just WAS and Am.
I call myself witchy…I love descriptors but find I often do not fit into them fully often…Like I do not fit the Christian label but I have many aspects of that in me, that background, and belief in a mysterious ineffible God. I believe all good things come from God and all good pathways lead there…including my witchy aspects. I know a lot of people think those are opposite concepts but I don’t. I think both witches and christians are called to step up for those who suffer and the diseased, hurting and oppressed. I think personal autonomy is also a must in any belief and respect for others ( unfortunately it does not always happen that way!) Witches and Christians both have endured torture, martyrdom for their faith, and horrid deaths both including burnings and crucifixions and being thrown to lions etc…unfortunately, people using the name “christian” have also done some of these practices to witches tho I feel in that case its a misnamer. If a person is stating the “Christian” label and does not follow the main commandment Jesus told everyone “Love God and Love your neighbour” and that it “supersedes all the commandments” and to “love your neighbour as yourself” I do not think they can legitimately claim to be that follower of the way. Nature, I feel, was Gods first and foremost bible…and I feel most at home in nature. (and the bible has been taken by misinterpretations and sometimes wrong ones.) So in that, I guess therein lies most of my witchiness? Seasons are so important to me, integrative living, I talk to and hug trees, I love the beauty of life, I respect each persons own path and belief. I hold a few key concepts true to myself but otherwise I tend to ebb and flow…and in that there is immense beauty. I see so much beauty in your pathway and in your life. This was a lovely post to read. I love it when people can be confident and celebrate themselves but still be respectful of others. Belief needs to be natural, integrative and true to each soul. I do not believe in forcing anyone into anything that their soul is not called to even if I can converse from my point of view, it is not to EVER put it on others. I am grateful to be witchy and feel that it serves my life such a grand scope of beauty!
I have missed you on my blog! YOur voice and perspectives always added so much! I hope I have done nothing to offend and that it is just simple life business! You are in my thoughts! xo
Dear Kmarie, thank you for the gift of your soulful comment and for allowing me to get to know you and your own immensely important spiritual path further.
Your insight, soulfulness, and radiant spirit shine through in your words and I sincerely appreciate all that you shared.
The parallels that you drew between witchery and Christianity lept out at me in particular. I really value your insight there – especially as, while it is a religion that I have studied quite a lot throughout my life, I have never personally been a Christan (though I do have a complex – one might even say tangled – history with that faith all the same, which I may discuss here in greater depth one day).
Goodness, no! Please rest assured that you have not done or said anything that would keep me away from your blog.
The honest to goodness truth of the matter is that my health has been declining severely since the second half of 2020. It is getting worse, if not by the day, than certainly by the week. As a result, I am often too weak and unwell to make it online and when I do, the majority of my energy frequently goes into helming this site.
As a result, my ability to make it over to other peoples’ blogs as often as I would ideally lie is not always possible. Or, if I am able to visit, I may not feel physically/emotionally/mentally that I am able to comment in a way that I would be satisfied with, so I forgo doing as much.
That said, I will be popping over to your site this week (potentially even today) and catching up on the latest entries there – including the one that you mentioned your daughter wrote.
Many heartfelt thanks again not only for speaking so openly about your own spiritual path, but for being so beautifully, wonderfully accepting of other peoples’ as well.
Thank you Autumn. Ha ha I think most North Americans have a tangled relationship with Christianity. I grew up immersed in a Bible College community K-6 and one year in College so I know first hand the ups and downs…and I had to have YEARS of therapy to get over some of the issues of Christianity as a religion as opposed to the true ( or supposed to be true at the beginning of the movement) Christian which was a belief in God and what Jesus did ( feed the poor, speak to the outcasts and love communing with them, heal the sick, take time out in the seasons and BE, Speak lots to groups but listen more to individuals, and focus on the heart of people and the one commandment that supercededes all- love God and your neighbour as yourself…WHich is a tall order as most of us struggle at loving self even!) Anyway, I have no qualms with that lived out Christian. I do with the dogmatic, fundamentalist etc that actually isnt true christianity at all. So I get it!
I would LOVE to hear your thoughts in greater depth sometime!!!!
I am so sorry your health has been declining. I will pray/ hope/ send vibes of a healing ring of fire around you. IT is so hard to have life moments of flares. Sometimes I also catch up all at once, so i understand. I am glad I asked so that I know though that I did not insult:) Yes, give to your blog and your passion sites first and foremost sweet soul!
Radiant hugs back!
Very interesting post to read Autumn! Thanks for sharing this.
It is my heartfelt pleasure, Donna. My grateful thanks in turn for reading it.
This was pure poetry, Autumn. I like that you took that simple question and explored it, pushing into every shadowy nook of why, how and what. Thank you for the wonderful picture of your hand (I am drawn to hands) – I love seeing your rings.
My dear friend, thank you immensely for your wonderful words and for seeing the soul of this post in the ways that I intended for it to come across.
Like yourself, I utterly adore hands and items that depict them – especially antique and vintage ones. That is another very lovely point that we share in common.
Many heartfelt thanks again, coupled with the biggest of hugs imaginable.
I’ve known you’re an empath from the first time I discovered your blog. You have a keen sense of compassion for others and reached out to me when I was feeling down. I don’t wear my heart on my sleeve, but you keenly picked up on my needing a little encouragement and reacted to it. I understand your knowing you’ve lived past lives – I’ve felt that for years myself. I too dance to the beat of my own drum and never had the need to follow the crowd. I’m an independent thinker and always try to be kind to others in spite of what I’ve endured from those who are not so kind to me. Although I’ve never considered myself a witch, I can relate to your thoughts and ideals in quite a few ways. I always trust my intuition – it’s never let me down. Names are just labels and mean nothing to me – I always look beneath the surface to find what people are really about, and I truly enjoy what I find when I come here to visit. Life is short – I try to spread kindness instead of hate, and let others choose who they want to be and how they want to live. I just try to always be myself and enjoy this life I’ve been given and appreciate the little things most folks don’t even see. Great read Autumn, I truly enjoyed this post 🙂
Dear Carol, what a moving, eloquent, wise and beautiful comment.
Thank you tremendously for all that you shared here and for allowing me to get to know you on a deeper level. I am very honoured to have that opportunity and nodded my head continually as I read and took to heart each insightful, caring word that you posted.
I thank you deeply as well for picking up that I am an empath. Reading that made my heart and soul alike feel so wonderfully warm and understood.
Based on the lovely interactions that we have had online, I very much feel that you are a strongly empathic person as well (may I ask – and you do not have to answer this, of course – do you consider yourself to be a fellow empath?).
Like yourself, I try to be an agent of kindness, acceptance, tolerance and compassion to the fullest extent of my abilities at that moment in my life.
To do anything else in the vast majority of situations feels like a sincerely foreign concept to me.
I have long said, and will forever maintain, that we as a species share infinitely more in common than those points that we differ on and the fact that we cannot learn to live and let live on a much broader (and massively needed) scale hurts my heart around the clock.
And it motivates me all the more to ensure I do my very best to share the types of kindness, understanding, and acceptance that I dearly wish a lot more people would embrace as well.
Thank you greatly again, sweet soul.
My most appreciative of heartfelt thanks, Ally.
For this. For the many years of your unwavering support + kindness. For the blessing that is your friendship. And for always being a positive force in my life.
This is so beautifully stated Autumn! I love everything you said and wish more people felt this way about traditional religion. I am a spiritual person but not particularly religious. I am a firm believer in each individual person should find something that grounds them, gives them comfort and meaning in life. But I also believe that those things should never be forced down someone else’s throat. My best friend calls herself a witch and she has never once tried to convert me or show me the benefits of her beliefs, which I wholeheartedly appreciate. Thank you for this post. I will be sharing it with her!
Thank you very deeply, dear Celeste. Your words, insight, and acceptance (both of my path and of those of others) are truly appreciated.
How awesome that your BF is a fellow witch. Many thanks for sharing that point with me.
I could not help but crack a wide smile regarding what you said about how your friend has never tried to convert you or try to convenience you of why being a witch is, for some folks, a thoroughly awesome thing.
In all my years as a Pagan witch and all the fellow witches/Wiccans I have encountered throughout that time, I have never once heard of a case where that actually happened.
I have no doubt that, objectively, it surely must have here and there, but it is a very safe bet to say that you are unlikely to ever have a witch/Wiccan/Pagan come knocking at your door to ask if you’ve heard the good word about their beliefs.
Thank you again very much for your comment and for being the absolutely lovely, wise, and wonderful soul that you are.
Scores of hugs,
Really wonderful and heartfelt post Autumn and I greatly appreciate you sharing this in-depth look at yourself and your reasons behind who you feel you are to us. I can relate to many things you’ve shared in this post but have never put my “feelings” in this context. I appreciate your “lessons” for me and enjoy reading about this as I’ve heard it from someone else too. Thank you!
Sweet Vicki, thank you tremendously for your supportive, warmhearted words.
I am moved to know that some of what I expressed here resonated deeply with you as well.
This was one of those posts that flowed with the strength of Niagara Falls from my heart and fingertips alike. It now stands now only as one of my favourite entries on this blog, but that I have ever written anywhere at any point in my life.
It is a piece of my soul rendered in digital form. One that I am honoured and happy alike to share with the world – know that, in some cases, it will speak deeply to others (including yourself) as well.
Abundant hugs & the very happiest of springtime wishes coming your way!
I found you in the comments on Angie’s blog post today and had to pull this thread. This is absolutely beautiful. Thank you for speaking it.
Hi Lydia, thank you very much for your lovely words and for sharing how you came to discover my wee corner of the good, ol’ interwebs.
I am delighted to have you here and am touched by your tremendously kind words.
This was a passion piece of a post if ever there was and it stands now as one of my favourite things I have ever written (anywhere) throughout my life thus far.
Many thanks again! I hope that we are able to continue connecting more online.
Big hugs & the sunniest of early springtime wishes,
You are wonderfully kind and supportive, dear Laura. Thank you deeply.
May this spring fill your days with warmth, wellness, and countless sources of joy.
I have finally got round to sitting down quietly to read this blog. I always like to know that I have time as your posts need to be savoured slowly, and time given to really listening to what you are saying. Sometimes that can feel frustrating when I just want to get round everyone I follow in good time, but I have learnt that I need to take a breath and slow myself down in order to concentrate properly. This post is extraordinary in that it explains so much, and you share so much of what makes you you. I am so glad that you have such a deep understanding of who you are, and that you are so proud of who you are, despite the challenges that life has brought you. I thank you for encouraging me to take time to think and to listen xx
My sweet friend, your immensely supportive words wrap themselves around me like that warm hug that they are. Thank you wholeheartedly for sharing your time and kindness both with my site and with me as a person.
I cherish the friendship that has blessed between us (all the more) in recent months and look forward to continuing to grow it all the more in 2022 – and beyond.
Rare is the occasion when the words have flowed more quickly or naturally (for me) than they did with this entry. It is a reflection of my innermost soul and something that I am moved to tear by regarding how positively/supportively it has been received by my wonderful readers.
Truly, thank you again. You have such a beautiful heart.
P.S. I do love your rings xx
Aww!!! Thank you SO much! That really means a lot to me as well. Those rings almost never come off my fingers (about the only times would be if they were at risk of being damaged for whatever reason or for medical appointments/surgeries where jewelry is not permitted). I hope dearly that they will be with me for the rest of my days, as each feels like a literal part of myself at this point.
As well, as they were all on me that night, they are amongst the only physical objects that I (we) owned at the time to come through the total loss arson fire we experienced back in 2016. This only endears them to my heart and makes me cherish them all the more.
I think a witch can be many different things. I think it is a kind of spiritual path, you are at peace with yourself, know your worth, and are calm in nature. You might have some gifts and see some signs. You might know some tricks and be more clever in other ways than most other people. I have often thought if I was a witch, I think I have called myself such a few times, and laughed, to make it less serious. I have seen the future precisely in dreams many times, and predict the future precisely via tarot cards for others, they are never true when asking for myself, haha. I have seen ghosts and ghostly acts. I often have a feeling of something. Does that make me a witch? If so, I’ll glad join your club. Thank you for a lovely read. Wishing you a lovely day, dear. 🙂
Thank you deeply for your own soulful words, dear Sanne.
The things you discussed have spiritual, witchy qualities for sure and are certainly elements that are relatively common amongst the witch/Wiccan/Pagan community.
I am of the mind that only an individual themselves gets to determine if they are a witch – however, they opt to perceive and interpret that word – or not. Thus, it is up to you entirely, my lovely friend, regarding if you wish to embrace the word witch and all comes with being one.
Honestly, I think that those – like us – who are profoundly pulled towards Halloween/Samhain are very inclined to be witches or to at least relate to the sphere of witchery. Therefore, I was not surprised – but was thoroughly delighted – to read that you witchery is something that resonates with you as well.
Immense hugs & the very happiest of springtime wishes,
Lovely post, Autumn. I enjoyed reading about the reasons why you call yourself a witch and are proud to do so. 🙂 I first became interested in witchcraft in my teens when I was very depressed, and part of the reason I was drawn to it was because I wanted to improve my life. So I can relate to what you say about having the ability to manifest and create the outcomes you want in your life.
I’ve also found that working with the Wheel of the Year and “living seasonally” has helped improve my life.
I’ve also never really been religious. I suppose I would have called myself Christian when I was young but I only went to church occasionally and never felt a deep connection with Christianity. I do find the atmosphere in some churches peaceful though and enjoyed attending special Christmas services growing up.
Thank you for sharing. <3
Sweet Zania, thank you very much for your beautiful words and for sharing more about your own path with me as well.
I concur completely regarding the serenity (and loveliness) that is inherent to many places of public worship. I have actually attended my church services throughout my life, too, and while I am not – and have never been a Christian – I can certainly appreciate the faith and find some common ground between elements of it and my own spiritual journey.
Plus, I absolutely adore the architecture, art, and religious icons of many older churches and make a point to try and visit such locations while travelling (to date, the oldest ones I have been in were several in Portugal, which I visited with some family members shortly before my 15th birthday – aka, a million years ago now! ;D).
I am tremendously sorry about the mental health battles you come against, dear heart. Thank you so much for sharing that very intimate fact about yourself here with me/us.
As someone who has battled horrifically severe depression for much of my life (ditto for anxiety and PTSD), I too have found my spirituality to be amongst those elements that have helped the most with my mental health. Crafting + art is another huge one for me.
May witchery always continue to be of benefit to you that and many other fronts.
Thank you again for everything. Warmest wishes for a sunny, safe, and very enjoyable springtime coming your way!
Hi Autumn, I’ve only just seen your reply now. 🙂 You’re very welcome.
I’ve never been to Portugal but I can imagine the churches there are great to visit, impressive in architecture and age. It’s amazing how old some of them are and still standing! My local one is thought to be from the very end of the 11th century or early 12th.
I visted Paris when I was 15 (last time I went abroad), that seems like a long time ago now too! lol.
Thank you. I’m also sorry to hear about your struggles with depression, anxiety and PTSD. It helps to know that others understand mental health issues, although of course I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I’m glad that spirituality helps you too, along with crafting and art. 🙂
Thank you for the beautiful wishes and I wish the same for you. <3
You're very welcome! Thank you too for your visits to my blog and lovely comments, and your replies here.
Thanks, spring has been very "changeable" in the UK so far, it had gone warmer and then felt more like winter again. There is a saying here, "Ne'er cast a clout till May be out", which is thought to mean don't take off layers until either the end of May or until the May trees (hawthorn) have blossomed (I'm not sure which). I find it's quite accurate because it takes till about May to consistently warm up!
Also wishing you a wonderful spring. I know that winter can be long in Canada, so I hope that you're staying warm if it's cold, or enjoying warmer, spring weather!
Hello sweet soul, thank you very much for your immensely kind, caring, and thoughtful reply.
I hear you regarding travelling abroad last feeling like it was ages upon ages ago. The last time I stepped foot outside of North America was early 2006 – and, hopping back further in time, twenty-three years have now elapsed since that trip to Portugal (a point that never stops boggling my mind).
How awesome that you got to experience the City of Lights firsthand. It is a location I have long dreamed of spending time in as well and very much hope to follow in your footsteps and do precisely that one day.
I am also beyond champing at the bit to see the UK. Save for numerous times at Heathrow Airport, I have ever been and literally daydream about doing so.
What would be one (or more) of your dream travel locations?
That is a very charming – and accurate – saying. Thank you for sharing it with me. It feels all the more apt, actually, given that we are experiencing a chillier than usual May here this year. Which, truth be told, aside from the negative impacts it can have on the ecosystem (including those most industrious of garden friends, the bees), I absolutely adore.
While I love and appreciate each season beyond measure, I am much more of a fall/winter/early spring weather kind of gal (though, that said, to my mind, there are few things more sublime than a perfectly warm – but not humid or stiflingly hot – summer night).
Thank you again deeply, dear heart – very much including for your understanding + kindness regarding one’s mental health. If you face battles of your own on that front, please know that my solidarity is with you and that I am always just an email away if you ever need someone to talk to about anything you are going through.
Wishing you a sunny, safe, serene, and very happy May-into-June.
Hi Autumn, you’re very welcome and thank you for your lovely reply. 🙂
Yes, it is mindboggling to look back and realise how long ago some things were!
I’m grateful I got to go to Paris. I hope that one day you get to visit there and to come to the UK too! There’s lot of things to do here and Brighton (my nearest city here in Sussex) is a popular tourist destination 🙂
Two of my dream destinations are Miami and Hawaii. I would like to visit the beaches there and it would be nice to go somewhere warm! I actually have been to Honolulu Airport on the way to and from Fiji (where I lived for a bit as a child), but I don’t really count that, lol. I would also like to visit Asia, Japan and Singapore in particular.
You’re welcome. 🙂 I do find it quite accurate and this May the weather has had colder and hotter spells. I’m not quite ready to get the flipflops out yet! lol.
Yes, I think there’s something to love and appreciate in all seasons. 🙂
Thank you, it’s good to know that you understand and that I can talk to you if I need to. I’m happy to talk to you too. 🙂
Thanks again for visiting my blog, it’s always a lovely surprise to receive comments from you! Also wishing you a wonderful end of May and smooth transition into June. ❤️
This was truly one of the most beautifully written posts I have read anywhere. It was a wonderful insight into you, witchcraft, and how to look at the world. Thank you for taking the time to write such a deeply personal post.
My dear friend, thank you for bringing tears to the brims of my eyes with your incredibly kind and supportive words.
Throughout my 37 (nearly 38 at this point) years of life, few things I have ever written flowed as naturally or powerfully as this entry. It was as though these statements were ones I had been wanting to not only make, but to corral together in one cohesive space, for decades now.
I am truly grateful that this blog gave me the platform in which to do precisely that – just as I am for the awesomely lovely support my readers expressed in response to it.
This post is one of my favourite and most meaningful things I have ever penned and I know that I will return to it myself sometimes when I need a powerful reminder of my own strength/capabilities.
From my heart to yours, thank you again.
Abundant hugs & beautiful springtime wishes,