Valentine’s Day is many things to many people.
Some adore it more than Cupid loves shooting arrows, others would happily strike it off the calendar completely if they could.
Plenty fall in between and enjoy taking part in various February 14th traditions, but don’t have overly strong feelings either way about Valentine’s Day.
For some of us, Valentine’s Day – like many holidays – stirs up a strong sense of nostalgia.
The mere return of the second month of the year puts us in the mind for handmade Valentine’s Day cards, cinnamon heart candies, gorgeous red roses, scrumptious chocolate-covered strawberries, and time spent listening to our favourite love songs.
Personally, as a perpetual romantic, I’m quite fond of St. Valentine’s Day and enjoy embracing the general messages of love, sweetness, and all things that make your heart skip a beat.
I fully understand (and trust me, some years I’ve been in far more of a Feb. 14th mood than others) that Valentine’s Day isn’t exactly everyone’s cup of tea – or rosé wine, if you prefer.
However, Valentine’s Day is an excellent point in the year to focus on the subject of love in general.
I realize that sounds a touch obvious, so please allow me to expand.
While we often associate Valentine’s Day with romantic love, or perhaps more plutonic forms of love such as that between relatives, close friends, etc, there is nothing that says the “amour train” has to stop there.
Valentine’s Day is an incredible time to reflect on things that we hold near and dear to our hearts, our greatest passions, everyday loves, and those areas of our lives that excite us to our cores.
For witches, Wiccans, and any other form of magickal or witchcraft practitioner, it can also be a superb opportunity to reflect on our current practices and beliefs. To evaluate where we’re at, what we cherish most about our witchcraft, and how we can strengthen our witchery all the more.
A fair number of us, even amongst the most devoted and active of witches, have felt their spiritual practice take a hit, or have had to put it on the backburner to a degree, in the midst of the challenging global pandemic we are all enduring.
As such, you might feel like your witchery is need of some self-love, TLC, and revitalizing. If so, I truly hope that the suggestions below will be of benefit to you.
Just as I hope that they are useful for all of my fellow witchy souls, whether you’re currently going through any form of spiritual struggle or not.
So without further ado, let me imbue the following words with my love and positivity for each of you, along with the wish that they inspire and aid you in your witchcraft both today and the whole year through.
❤️ 14 ways to love your witchcraft even more ❤️
1. Start something new. Always wanted to blog about your practise, passion for tarot, life as empath, communing with spirit guides, light working, hedge riding, or any other spiritually focused subject?
Dying to take an online course about herbology, reiki, crystal healing, or spellwork?
Long yearned to make your own set of runes, scrying mirror, poppet, or magickal oils?
Ready to make this year the one that you start your own grimoire, Book of Shadows, or other magickal journal?
Go for it!
Sometimes the best way to inject an extra bushel of love into our practice is to stop thinking about what we want to do “one day” and make today the moment we turn thoughts into tangible actions.
2. Give your altar, witchy room, or other sacred space a tidy – and a makeover, if needed. Sweep off the incense ash, treat yourself to some new candles, dispose of any finished spell remains that are still lurking around, straighten crocked art or décor items, and look for ways to spruce up your sacred space.
Whether you work with a nightstand altar or have devoted your whole home to your witchery, show the magickal spaces(s) in your life some extra love this February.
The positive impact that doing so stands to have on your daily practice and spellwork virtually a given, as there’s just something about a clean, tidy space that helps to facilitate our witchery and innermost desires all the more effectively.
3. Make peace with the fact that not every day is going to be the witchiest day to have ever witched. And for that matter that, in all likelihood, not every spell or manifestation intention is going to come to fruition for you – at least not in the way you might have intended.
Our spirituality should not feel like a stressful job, heavy burden, or point of anxiety in our lives. If you are constantly berating yourself, feeling blue, or comparing yourself continually to other witches, it’s time to stop.
Really and truly stop.
You are going to have days when you’re at the top of your witchy game and others when you might not even think about witchcraft once. That is normal, that is okay, and that is all part of the continual journey that is being a witch.
Let go of the stress, celebrate and give thanks when you are able to focus on your path, and know that pretty much none of us – no matter what the internet might have you believe – operates at max witchy capacity 24/7/365.
4. Be mindful of who, and what, you share your magickal energy and spellwork with. Sometimes, as witches, it can be tempting to run to our herbs and candles so as to create spells for nearly every negative situation, difficult to deal with person, and worry that comes our way.
This isn’t a bad thing per se (and situations like these can be amongst those that are most aided by our witchery), but it is possible to stretch ourselves a bit to thin energy and focus wise, and to perhaps pour too much effort into causes and people that do not warrant it.
By mindfully focusing on fewer workings and aiming to ensure they have your full time, attention, and energy, your magick and connection to your practise stand to deepen and blossom all the more.
Plus, you’re less likely to feel like someone has drained the last ounce of juice from your witchy inner batteries.
5. If this matters to you, determine what kind(s) of witch you are. One need not apply labels to themselves to have an awesomely rewarding experience as a witch. However, plenty of folks love the idea of knowing what kind of witch they and in leaning all the more into that identity.
There is a seemingly endless number of blog, website, and social media based posts out there that discuss some of the various kinds of witches, and a simple Google search for “types of witches” or “kids of witches” will deliver scores of them your way.
If you’re in the mood for some lovely and enjoyable YouTube viewing on the subject, may I suggest Hearthfire Fox’s terrific video 100 Types of Witches?
Once you determine what kind of with you presently are (note: you are free to change interests, paths, areas of focus, etc when it comes to our witchery anytime you desire and not absolutely not locked into being, say, a cottage witch, weather witch, literary witch, sea witch, kitchen witch, forest witch, or chaos magick witch for life), look for ways to foster your own special blend of witchery.
You can build an altar focused on such, incorporate elements of your witchy personality into your wardrobe, read up on the subject, connect with other witches you also associate similarly online or off, and, if so desired, find ways to tie the type(s) of witch that you are into as many of your spells, rituals, sabbat and esbat workings, and other witchy activities as possible.
6. Connect with your ancestors all the more via DNA ancestry testing. If you’ve read my post on 5 Ways That Ancestral Testing Can Benefit Your Witchy Life, you may be aware of the fact that I’m a big proponent of incorporating the results of DNA-based testing into one witchcraft and spiritual journey as a whole.
DNA testing isn’t everyone’s first choice and I fully respect that fact. However, if you feel pulled towards it and are curious to discover how it might benefit your witchy, why not show yourself and the generations that came before you some extra love by discovering even more about your own unique, wonderful ancestral history?
7. Share the love. Are there unused or gently loved items pertaining to your spirituality that you are no longer – to borrow a term from Marie Kondo – spark joy for you? What about ones you may have outgrown (literally or physically)? How about purchases that were made with every good intention, but never actually used or enjoyed?
Are there fellow witches, Pagans, or others in your life that you could gift some of these items to?
If not, what about local charity shops, free item based Facebook groups in your area, or any budding new witches you might happen to know?
8. Research and incorporate non-Wheel of The Year sabbats into your witchery. You’d be hard pressed to find someone who loves each of the eight sabbats on the Wheel of The Year more than this witch.
By the same token, I also enjoy embracing other holidays and special events that are culturally and spiritually appropriate for my path. Just as I’m keen to encourage others to do the same.
Imbolc, Ostara, Beltane, Litha, Lammas, Mabon, Samhain, and Yule are incredibly important and enjoyable aspects of being a witch for some of us, but there are many other days of the year that we can celebrate in the context of our spirituality as well.
These include, but are certainly not limited to:
-Our own birthdays
-Lupercalia (observed on February 13th, 14th, and/or 15th)
-International Women’s Day (March 8th)
-Earth Day (April 22nd)
-Yggdrasil Day (also April 22nd)
-Walpurgis Night (April 30th)
-All Souls Day (November 2nd)
-Saturnalia (on, or around, December 17th)
-New Years celebrations rooted in ancient cultures (such as the 5 Ancient New Year’s Celebrations listed in this History Channel post).
-The monthly esbats
If you follow a particular branch of witchery and/or Paganism, research what the traditional holidays and other highly important points on the calendar were/are for this group and consider incorporating more if them into your spirituality, if you’re not already doing so.
9. Create one or more of your own witchy tools or supplies. While DIYing seems to come intuitively to many witches, that doesn’t necessarily mean that we always listen to the siren’s song to do so.
It can be ever-so-easy (especially since the advent of online shopping) to purchase some or even all of our magickal supplies.
There’s nothing wrong with doing so, of course, but if you have the time, abilities, and, if applicable, finances needed making some of your own magickal items can be a highly rewarding experience.
The sky is the limit on this front, but possible options include brooms and besoms, wands, pendulums, sets of runes, handmade and/or hand drawn decks of tarot and oracle cards, candles, oils, incense blends, altar clothes, offering dishes and bowls, travel altars, and magickal jewelry, to name but a few possibilities.
10. Have a witchy elevator pitch. While chances are you won’t actually have to pitch why you’re a witch in a business world setting any time soon, it can be beneficial to your spiritual journey to be able to succinctly summarize the core tenants of your current beliefs and practices.
Take some time, if needed, to get down to brass tacks when it comes to what your own witchcraft path is all about. What do you believe? What matters most to you from a witchy perspective? What are your core witchy tenants? What is your spiritual truth? How would you describe your path in just a few lines?
The more we hone in and focus on what matters most to us, what we believe, and how we chose to presently witch, the more we stand to feel happy with, and confident in, our witchery. And that, my friends, is a very good thing indeed.
11. Remember what drew you to witchcraft in the first place – or, if you were born into a family of practising witches, why you’ve opted to continue down a witchy path as you’ve grown up.
Sometimes it can do a world of good for our spiritual practises if we go back to our roots.
Strip away all the Instagram accounts you compare yourself to, the reams of spells sitting in books on your shelves you’d like to do, but never seem to have time to accomplish; the infighting and gatekeeping of the Pagan world, and the things you tried and didn’t bond with as you might have hoped.
Let these elements go as best you can. Banish them from your life or least spend less time focusing on them, and really explore the humble beginnings of when you first started your witchery.
What drew you to being a witch? What have you changed since then? How have you grown as a witch (and a person in general)?
What do you wish you’d known then about being a witch that you know now? How has being a witch (hopefully!) benefited your life? Where do you want to be as a witch in a year, five years, twenty years from now?
Honour your roots, celebrate the days when you were a witchling, and ask yourself if there are elements of those early times that you’ve not focused on in a while but which could serve you well again today (then try to put them into action).
12. Just have fun! Seriously, not everything has to be solemn, serious, complicated, or challenging. There is a place and time both inside and out of witchery for such, but there is also ample space for lighthearted fun.
Goodness knows that most of us have had an incredibly challenging past several months and that fun hasn’t always been our top priority.
If you can spare even just fifteen or twenty minutes here or there to focus on fun, I highly encourage you to do so.
Your fun can be Witchcrafted based or otherwise, as you desire. The aim is to enjoy yourself, smile, relax or conversely amp up your energy, experiencing the pleasures of living the moment and feeling free to let your hair down for a little bit.
Being and feeling happy is one of the greatest gifts we can ever give ourselves. Be it for Valentine’s Day or any other point on the calendar.
13. Utilize music in your practice. Whether you create it yourself (singing, chanting, drumming, playing another instrument, etc) or turn to the creative works of others, music can often heighten and deepen our spiritual journeys for the better.
We’re blessed that music abounds in the world and that we can make it ourselves in a multitude of ways
What types of instruments and songs make you feel most connected to your path? Have you ever sung to the moon or the faeries? What about your ancestors or your spirit allies? Could you compose the words of a spell set to music?
What about making a sigil from one of your favourite song verses? Have you ever tapped rhythmically on elements in nature such as rocks, trees, or even bodies of water?
If the universe as a whole had an anthem, what do you think it would sound like?
Are there any types of music that help you to feel more connected to the deities (or Spirit) that you work with?
Think outside of the (music) box and look for fun, creative, meaningful ways to add music to your witchcraft.
14. Remember that the most powerful magickal tools you will ever have are your own energy, intention, life experiences, and believes. Physical tools, exciting tarot decks, gorgeous crystals, healing herbs, and a plethora of other witchery related items all have their places, of course, but at the end of the day you, and you alone, are the most powerful source of magick you will ever work with.
And if you’re looking for additional ways beyond these fourteen ideas to help up your witchy practice all the more, be sure to check out my post on 12 Ways to Live a More Magickally Focused Year.
Loving wishes to you on this beautiful day
With each passing year, my Valentine’s aesthetic and focus becomes ever more Valoween. This makes my witchy + gothy soul purr like a contend black cat.
However, I also adore Victorian, Edwardian, and mid-twentieth century styles and vintage items as well, and find that merging the two is a snap.
As February 14th draws near, I send either store bought or handmade Valentine’s Day cards to some of my loved ones whenever possible.
I scour the house for every red, black, and pink candle, candle holder, and heart shaped item, pairing them with our black dishes and dusty pink hued drinking glasses to create a festive tablescape that is just the romantic ticket for me and my honey.
We’re always been the type to express our love actively throughout the year in myriad ways, which means that Valentine’s Day has the added bonus of being a pressure-free day for both of us that we can enjoy to our heart’s content.
On a spiritual level, I adore working spells pertaining to love, friendship, vitality, romance, and my goals (which often pertain to things I love) on Valentine’s Day.
I also try to make a point to reflect on those areas of my life that I’m loving most at the moment, the people who are closest to my heart, and on Valentine’s Days past.
I also focus on sending loving energy out into the universe, directing it everything from the genus loci in our area, to my ancestors, and, of course, to my fellow witches and Pagans the world over.
Whether that is a heading you fall under as well or not, I encourage you to take some time today and through February in general to access if there are areas of your life that could use a little more love and attention.
If there are, seek out realistically doable ways to pour more of your heart and energy in these areas. They matter to you for a reason and deserve to be nurtured and celebrated whenever possible.
However you opt to observe (or not) Valentine’s Day, I hope that you feel loved, have people and passions to adore in your own life, and will experience an extra sweet moment or two today.
Happy February 14th wishes, dear ones, with love and kisses from my heart to yours. ❤️